kids and demands

I’ve been thinking about something a while…

Why does it seem to exist a general fear of not giving your children everything they want?

When I say everything, I mean everything.

I see it everywhere.
Parents panicking when their children are a tiny bit hungry or unhappy.

Yes, parents are as kind as ever today, working hard for their families.
But what they lack is power.
Strength to be able to stick to a decision – especially when their children are screaming and crying.
Children are not suppose to have whatever they want all the time.
They do not decide when it’s time to stop – you do.

When I was a kid there was not a day when we didn’t run around, doing fun stuff outside.
All we wanted to do was to PLAY.
When it was dinner time, mom had to more or less force us to relax and tell her about our day in school/outside.
And what was on the table, was what we were eating.
Normal, healthy, homemade food.
Food was never an issue in our home, never the best part of the day – but something we did cause we had to.
Our dinners was more about the time our family had together.

We where happy kids – with loving parents, but strict rules and demands on our behavior.
Yelling wasn’t part of our family, and until this day I have never said a cross word to my parents.
We would have never dared when we were kids; not because of physical treats – but because of the psychological advantage my parents had on us.
The kind of advantage that loving parents are suppose to have.

When I look at kids today, (my nieces and nephews amongst them) – something is different.
So many of them are slightly overweight from a very young age.
They refuse doing anything but to sit in front of the computer, tv and their video games (the perfect babysitter).
When you try to convince them to go out and play – they just look at you like you where stupid.
They claim everything that has to do with movement is boring.
So what happen with the love of being a running kid?

They always eat and talk about food.
The parents don’t deny them anything.
And I’m shocked to hear kids raise their voices at their parents; demanding things that I’m shocked to say that the parents actually GIVE THEM.
What are you thinking parent?!

What about whats best for the kid?
The best for them is NOT what they decide.
Things like fried and microwaved food, loads of cheese on everything, candy-bars, snacks, ice-cream and whatever you can come up with is just plain stupid.
How can you look yourself in the mirror as a parent?

You are the one buying the shit for your kid!?

You have to prepare food for your children.
It doesn’t take that much more time?

I don’t understand how you as a parent can allow your little kid to get fat?
And how you can allow your kid being rude and cocky?

Did you know that new studies tells that being overweight from a young age damages your body, as much as if you were a smoker?
And did you know that this generation is the first one that won’t get older than their parents?
New studies also state that parents are destroying their children’s ability to develop control over their bodies and ability to move - all because of the fact that we wont let them climb, jump, run and fall anymore?
We’re also destroying our children’s ability to use their own fantasy, buy constantly feeding them with TV as they play?

Is that what we want for our kids?

You and I know that its NOT the kids fault that he/she is fat.

It’s yours, the parent.

I’m sorry that it sounds harsh, but it is the truth.
Shame on you for making your child go towards an early death.

~ by cherrykillsme on February 27, 2009.